A healthy self-esteem is a very important factor in our lives. Self-esteem starts developing during childhood, and early experiences can have a dramatic effect on it.
Self-esteem is defined as a sense of confidence and satisfaction in oneself. There’s a lot you can do as a parent to foster this sense of satisfaction in your children. This post will provide you with some guidelines and recommendations to help you understand how you can help your children in this crucial stage.
Avoid Yelling and Other Aggressive Behavior
Yelling and hitting are out of the question, as they prevent a child from developing important skills such as problem-solving and conflict management. Furthermore, by acting this way you set a negative example of poor impulse control that your children may try to imitate.
There are other less obvious behaviors you should avoid as well: Don’t dwell on past conflicts and don’t use guilt to control your children. These attitudes can be as harmful for their self-esteem as physical punishment.
Foster an Optimistic Outlook
During their early years, your children will look at the world through your eyes. Therefore, make sure you foster a positive, can-do outlook on life. This will strengthen their self-esteem, making them feel that they can handle any obstacle. It can also be the basis of a permanent optimistic outlook on life. Research has shown that optimists tend to be healthier and live longer. In any case, they struggle less to overcome stumbling blocks, as they see them as transitory and caused by external factors. In short, optimism can be the best gift you can give to your children.
Understand Your Role
Own your actions regarding your children and your role as a pivotal figure in their lives. Understanding how important you are for the development of their self-esteem will give you a necessary pause whenever you have to make a difficult decision. Remember that your child’s self-esteem starts with you and that you have an unsurpassed influence in shaping the inner voice that will accompany their every action when they become adults.
Learn to Gradually Shift Control
Honor your children’s increasing need for control of the world that surrounds them. This means that you’ll have to learn to judiciously shift control in some areas. It won’t always be easy, as you may be naturally reluctant to acknowledge their newly acquired skills. However, keep in mind that at this stage they also see themselves through your eyes, and nothing can infuse them with confidence like your trust in their abilities.
We have Youth Programs and Parent Empowerment Resources to help you understand more about how to raise your children’s self-esteem. Call Akoma Unity Center, San Bernardino, CA at 909-217-7956 or reach us by email today to get more information.