Helping our children understand the importance of good behavior and teaching them to be “good kids” can be a difficult and frustrating task. However, we should always look for different strategies to discipline our kids without getting physical and making sure we never rely on spanking, which is simply wrong. It doesn’t only represent an ineffective way to discipline a kid as it sends a mixed and unclear message, but it also leaves emotional scars on them that can last decades while reinforcing negative behavior, too.
One of the most effective strategies to discipline your kids without getting physical is by placing them in time-out spaces. This allows your kids to learn how to calm themselves down instead of escalating tantrums into more negative behavior. We should remember, though, that in order for this strategy to be effective, our kids should be having plenty of time-in with us. This way, they will understand that the time out is a consequence of bad behavior, helping them behave better in the future.
Taking Away Privileges
Another strategy that can help us with teaching our kids discipline is taking away their privileges as a consequence of bad behavior. This tends to be quite common, as many of us might already take away TV time, restrict video games, toys, or fun activities from our children when they have bad behavior. However, an essential part of this strategy is making it clear for our kids that their privileges can be earned back, taking 24 hours as the ideal period for them to understand the impact.
Let Natural Consequences Happen
More often than we realize, we encourage our kids to follow a certain behavior in order for them to avoid the consequences. For example, telling them to wear a jacket outside so that they don’t get cold, which is something children tend to forget about quite often. Instead of yelling at them or losing our temper, we should let natural consequences happen, for example letting them go outside without the jacket. They will get cold and decide to get one on their own, thus, learning a valuable lesson on their own.
Reward Good Behavior
As parents, we might be more aware of bad behavior, having good behavior sometimes going unnoticed, as it is what we expect from our kids. Nonetheless, it is very important for us to praise and reward good behavior. This helps children feel valued and recognized, and because of the positive reinforcement they receive, they will continue to behave well. Implementing reward systems can be another great way to provide an incentive for them to work on their behavior without having to use physical punishment.